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Friday, January 23, 2026

Dearest readers, this piece is not about hating women, it’s about calling out complicity, manipulation, and moral cowardice. Read with honesty, not emotions.

The recent incident that broke out within a supposed body of Christ got me thinking. Thinking, and scared. I am scared of my gender. When men say my gender can kill, I used to think it was just a conspiracy theory. Until now.

At the end of the day, only you know thyself. Do not use yourself to judge or understand people. Some people are far removed from morals and self-respect.

Growing up, when the police arrested a criminal or a ritualist and the news was broken to the wife, you would see her act shocked. You would see her cry and shout. You would see disgust and shock written all over her face. Now I doubt all that. Clearly, it was just some drama.

Sometimes, these criminals would later say their wives knew they were kidnappers, armed robbers, and so on. Sometimes, they even claim their wives helped in hiding their weapons. When the women are brought in for interrogation, you see them wail and cry, acting innocent, play the victim card, and manipulate the police and the public into believing they are innocent. And we blindly believed, especially when there is no pinned evidence.

Then the women are freed, and we turn around to say, fear men. We say in our hearts, “So because you’ve caught, you want to bring down an innocent woman? Is this the ‘for better or for worse’?” But today, I am beginning to believe what those criminals used to say. My gender is to be feared. They knew. They were indirectly involved, but they chose to deny their husbands.

Most women have played us for fools with their manipulative schemes. They are the best at playing the victim card. That a woman would set her camera, a supposed actress, one who ought to be a role model, and say that a supposed pastor cannot leave her and marry another woman, asking who he wants to leave her for is mind bongling.

She even went as far as claiming she hurt herself and was rushed to the hospital, just to look heartbroken. All to trigger Nigerians to stand by her and stay glued to the juicy scandal she was about to dish out.

You knew he was diabolical. You knew he is not a true man of God. He opens up to you about the women he had slept with. You knew them. You have their chats. You have plenty of evidence against him. Yet you still slept with such a man, and I am very sure without protection. You stayed with him for years. The same man you left your marriage for. And this supposed actress thinks smart people won’t know she too is diabolical?

Only a devil recognizes a devil and feels comfortable sleeping with one. She clearly knew where she belonged and knew she was untouchable.

It’s crazy the level at which my gender can play the victim, while being very far from it. In my article “Women, naturally are manipulators,” I wrote about how women use tears to manipulate men. This said actress is a clear example. She has mastered the art of manipulation. She used tears to get public attention and project herself as a heartbroken woman, a strategy to win the sympathy of well-meaning Nigerians. She played the pity card so well, and later revealed her true colour. A serpent with endless venom.

A woman who does damage control for fake men of God, is she a victim? Or an instrument of God to expose fake men of God? This is a typical example of a wounded lion. A contract was breached, and she is out for her pound of flesh.

Today is not the day to drag fake men of God or the supposed man of God in question. Our focus is on women, an angle we always ignore. I have already written an article titled “Pastors and Scandals.” It is a shame that these people lay hands on others, obviously passing down demons to their blind and gullible flock.

Now let us look at the new wife. According to the actress, the mother of the girl is the choir mistress of the church. She knew her daughter was dating the supposed man of God. A daughter old enough to know it is wrong to sleep with a supposed anointed man of God, got pregnant for him. The choir mistress had to threaten the supposed man of God to marry her daughter or face consequences, and he obliged.

Are the mother and daughter not to be feared? A mother who knows this man is fake still pushes her daughter toward him. A daughter who, from all indications, knows he is not a genuine pastor still goes ahead to sleep with and marry him. Tomorrow, they will come out and play the victim, acting like they never knew his true nature.

A husband sent by God, or a husband sent by her mother? Running to hug him as he gaslights the church, oh, a supportive woman. Sis is hugging her ticket out of poverty.

I say this: do not pity most of these women who come online to fight and drag their partners. If you look closely, they are true co-villains.

This is not the time for women supporting women. What is evil should be rebuked.

I know a woman who beats up her husband. Every time she beats him, she is the one shouting as if she is the one being beaten. She screams, “This man will kill me o! Make una come o!”

Out of shame, the man does not shout or say anything so people won’t know he is the one receiving beatings from his wife. Constantly, we cursed the man. We called names. She beat him in places not visible so no one would notice scars.

Each time the man came out of the house, he saw hatred in our eyes toward him. Sometimes, we noticed he walked like someone who was hurt, but we overlooked it, assuming that during the fight, while beating his wife, he must have fallen.

Until one day, the fight was intense. Her screams were unbearable. A group of men broke into the house. And behold, she was on top of the man, beating him, and screaming at the same time.

The intruders were in shock. They could not believe their eyes. That was when the man ran out crying. He opened up to the compound about what had been enduring in his home. She was the true chauvinist.

The entire compound, and neighboring compounds, were left in shock. We had been cursing a victim all along, while showing pity and care to a villain. She had mastered manipulation perfectly.

This is the truth about many women.They will cry and manipulate you into believing they are victims, while they are the antichrist.

It is high time we stopped being manipulated by these women. Look beyond the tears and the victim card. See them for who they truly are.

Women are not as weak as we think. They are capable of unthinkable things. Evil does not have a gender, but victimhood has become its favorite disguise.

when they can’t stand accountability, monsters learn how to cry.