By Esther Omah

As I sat here, reflecting on my journey as a young business owner in the competitive real estate industry, I am reminded of the numerous challenges I faced from the outset.

Starting a real estate business requires a significant investment of time, money, and resources. I had to obtain necessary licenses and certifications, develop a solid business plan, and secure funding to cover operational costs. Despite these initial hurdles, I was determined to succeed.

However, the path to getting here was paved with obstacles that tested my resolve and forced me to dig deep within myself. I recall the countless times I felt like giving up, when the stress and pressure seemed overwhelming, but I refused to let my circumstances define me.

While my story has been one of ultimate success, with my company becoming a reputable brand, the path to getting here was paved with obstacles that tested my resolve and forced me to dig deep within myself. I recall a meeting with a well-connected businessman to discuss a potential partnership.

As we sat down to talk, he quickly steered the conversation towards more personal matters. I tried to steer the conversation back on track, but he seemed more interested in getting to know me on a personal level. His eyes locked onto mine, and I felt a sudden rush of adrenaline. The air in the room seemed to thicken, and I could sense the tension building. I shifted uncomfortably in my seat, trying to maintain a professional demeanor, but his gaze seemed to pierce right through me. I left the meeting feeling frustrated and disappointed, realizing that he was only willing to help me if I was willing to compromise my values.

I faced a similar experience when I met with a potential investor, hoping to secure funding and gain valuable insights into the industry. We had agreed to meet at a cozy café, and I arrived prepared, armed with my business plan and a clear vision for my company. As we sat down at a quiet table, I began to present my plan, enthusiastically outlining my goals and objectives. However, it quickly became apparent that he was not interested in my business proposal.

Instead, he started asking personal questions, his tone suggestive and overly familiar. He leaned in closer, his eyes scanning me from head to toe, making me feel uncomfortable and objectified. I tried to politely extricate myself from the situation, attempting to steer the conversation back to my business plan. He persisted, making flirtatious comments and innuendos that left me feeling uneasy and disheartened.

As the meeting drew to a close, I realized that yet another opportunity had been tainted by someone’s unprofessional behavior. I left the café feeling frustrated and disappointed, wondering why some individuals felt entitled to cross professional boundaries. Despite my best efforts to maintain a positive attitude, I couldn’t shake off the feeling that I had been reduced to a mere object, rather than being treated as a serious businesswoman.

The experience was a harsh reminder of the challenges that many women face in the business world. It reinforced my determination to succeed, despite the obstacles and setbacks that I might encounter. I vowed to continue pushing forward, using my experiences to fuel my growth and resilience.

Finally, after a series of disappointing meetings, I met someone who was willing to assist me in the way that I needed, It was at a business conference in Lagos. My friend and former colleague at work who was also inspired by my determination to become successful gave me a platform that I will never forget. She introduced me to a friend who organises conferences to empower women and young girls to become independent and successful in any career path they had chosen and I was invited as a guest speaker.

That was where I met a very wealthy business man that changed my story. A renowned businessman with a reputation for integrity and philanthropy, he was there in the audience. After my presentation, he approached me and introduced himself, praising my passion and determination.

As we spoke, I learned that he had built his business empire from scratch, through hard work and perseverance. He was impressed by my own entrepreneurial spirit and asked if he could meet with me again to discuss my business plans.

A few days later, we met at his office, a spacious room filled with trophies and accolades from his illustrious career. As I entered, he looked up from the papers on his desk and smiled warmly.

“Ah, my dear, it’s a pleasure to meet you again,” he said, his voice dripping with kindness. “I must say, I’m impressed by your enthusiasm and determination. You’re a rare gem, indeed.”

As we sat down to discuss my business proposal, I could sense his genuine interest and admiration. He listened attentively, asking pertinent questions and offering valuable insights. I was struck by his warmth and generosity; qualities that seemed to emanate from his very being.

As our meeting drew to a close, he surprised me with an offer. “My dear, I want to help you in any way I can,” he said, his eyes twinkling with sincerity. “You remind me of my daughter, who passed away many years ago. I wish I had a son who was single, so I could arrange a marriage between you two.”

I was taken aback by his words, but I could sense the kindness behind them. “I’m flattered by your offer,” I replied, smiling. “But I’m focused on building my business right now.”

He chuckled and nodded. “I understand, my dear. But know that you have a father figure in me. I’ll provide you with all the support and guidance you need to succeed.”

And true to his word, the man became a mentor and guardian to me. He provided me with office space, introduced me to valuable contacts, and offered sage advice whenever I needed it. He treated me like a daughter, spoiling me with gifts and affection.

Under his guidance, my business flourished. I was able to secure funding, build a strong team, and establish a reputation as a savvy entrepreneur. And through it all, he was there, cheering me on and offering words of encouragement.

I will forever be grateful to him for his kindness and generosity. He proved that there are still good people in the world, willing to help others without expecting anything in return. And I hope to pay it forward someday, by helping others in need.

In conclusion, my journey as a young business owner has been a testament to the power of perseverance and determination. Despite the numerous challenges I faced, I remained committed to my vision and values.

I hope that my story can serve as a source of inspiration and motivation for young women entrepreneurs, reminding them that they too can break barriers and achieve their dreams. A woman can make it without being reduced to a sex object.